Eventually, after being in a long-distance relationship for over a year, I finally acquiesced and got an i Phone again so that my boyfriend and I could Skype and use Whats App to keep connected while he lived abroad. Now, back in this era of dating, I sit in my rocking chair in disbelief. That ended before it could even begin when he texted me at midnight wanting to hang out right then and there. A mutual friend explained that he truly likes to hang out at that hour and it wasn’t intended as a booty-text, but the lack of common sense had me running in the other direction and I canceled our upcoming date. Pick up the phone and ask me out for shuffleboard like a gentleman. And then, as we head further into the waters of an actual relationship, texting sets a strong precedent for mucking it up.
I could go on and on with scenario after scenario of ill-fated texts that ended relationships that could have been saved in face-to-face communication, or even by talking over the phone. Texting limits the amount of data we have to process. A quick text saying “I’m sorry” doesn’t hold the same weight as holding a lover’s hands, looking into their eyes, and seeing the human behind the hurt.
Consider this when in a chat room and start the conversation off in a very low key manner. In recent times, ad funded free online dating sites have also emerged - need we say more? You need to stay in touch with your dating site and check your mail/inbox regularly.
the decision to sign up to online dating sites starts with your wallet or purse. If you become too unavailable the person trying to contact you will move onto someone else. When you agree to meet someone in person, do so in a public place.
To me, texting represents the kids these days and their need to busy all the time.So, you want to embark on a casual, no-strings attached relationship?Just sex, no emotional commitment; get in, get off, get out.After my first trip to India, high on life and lots of meditation, I ditched my i Phone and bought a dumb phone without texting. There was no way to leave their scent and digitally mark their territory in 140 characters or less.Even my students used to joke that my preferred mode of communication was carrier pigeon.The dilemma is how can you tell if you are being wise and prudent or picky and selfish?