Very Early Warning Sign #1: A Blamer Avoid anyone who blames his negative feelings and bad luck on someone else.Special care is necessary here, as blamers can be really seductive in dating.There were refreshments and cupcakes for anyone who came by.Interested students were given red flags and sharpies and asked to jot down something that they would see as a red flag in a relationship, and then to place their red flag statements on the lawn.There are obvious red flags to avoid in a prospective lover, such as angry, controlling, possessive, jealous, or violent behavior.Unfortunately, most abusers are able to mask these tendencies in dating.Most of the time, violence takes place when the couple is alone.You might not see dramatic warning signs like black eyes and broken bones, so how can you tell for sure? You probably wouldn’t be worried without good reason.
“The red flags all represent a warning sign that you could possibly see in an unhealthy relationship,” said JSU alumna Trace Fleming, the current Sexual Assault Program Director at 2nd Chance, Inc, and the founder of WISE.
Notice that being hit or physically abused is only one sign of an abusive relationship.
You can be in an abusive relationship without ever being hit.
It affects people of all socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels.
Domestic violence includes behaviors that physically harm, arouse fear, prevent a partner from doing what they wish or force them to behave in ways they do not want.
Domestic violence (also called intimate partner violence (IPV), domestic abuse or relationship abuse) is a pattern of behaviors used by one partner to maintain power and control over another partner in an intimate relationship. Anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion or gender can be a victim – or perpetrator – of domestic violence.