(Maybe their relationship with one of their parents or siblings isn’t great.) This is a nice way to leave it open-ended, and let your date chat about their family in terms that are as specific or as general as they want. It opens up room to hear about what they value without making your date feel like they’re bragging.
The key to creating a solid first date experience is the art of banter, which begins with asking meaningful questions.
First dates can be exciting and awesome, but they can also be nerve-wracking, awkward, and pretty flippin’ weird.
If you’re anything like me, the conversation will invariably turn to boring work stories and how much you’re addicted to guacamole.
Think of conversation as a tennis match in which the players lob the ball back and forth. They ask personal or sensitive questions that put the other person on the defensive. If feeling inhibited is a problem for some people, others go to the opposite extreme: they use a date as an opportunity to purge and vent.
The best communication occurs with an even and equal exchange between two people. Getting to know someone new is like peeling an onion one thin layer at the time. But some people, overeager to get into deep and meaningful conversation, go too far too fast.
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