He may not see that you stay with him as a conscious choice. “The training kicks in” means something very different to him.It is direct battle doctrine that when ambushed by a superior force, the correct response is “Apply maximum firepower and break contact.” A warrior has to be able to respond to threat with minimal time pondering choices. Every day I listen to my combat veterans as they struggle to return to the “normal” world after having a deeply life-changing experience. Sometimes that can involve medications, but listening is key.Sometimes a combat veteran tells me things that they wish their families knew.They have asked me to write something for their families, from my unique position as soldier, wife, and physician. War is horrible, but there is nothing like a life-and-death fight to make you feel truly alive.These are generalizations; not all veterans have these reactions, but they are the concerns most commonly shared with me. The adrenaline rush is tremendous, and can never be replaced.This means that more than 30 million people are affected by PTSD, which made the National Institute of Health to call it a “growing epidemic.”Even if you’ve been through therapy sessions, your daily live is not going to be the same after suffering a traumatic event.
Now I want to look more at how PTSD affects the “relationship house” that two people build on the foundation.PTSD, or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, can affect almost anyone and symptoms can show up at any age.Most people suffer from PTSD as a result of some kind of traumatic event or time period in their life, such as domestic violence, rape or other sexual assault, familial violence, an automobile or airplane accident, war, terrorism, or some other violent or unsettling event.And when it comes to love, things are even more complicated.Dating with PTSD is hard, as you need to find someone who accepts you and your trauma.It is even harder for him if you are smart and do not need him to rescue you, since rescuing is something he does really well.