You don’t need to change, you need to learn to test the men based on who you are.
That needs to be repaired before you can date again.
I was left no longer trusting myself or my ability to judge a man’s character.
It took me two years to muster the courage to actively go out and seek companionship. Not only of getting abused again, but of placing myself in a situation where I knew I was the problem. One that would partly place the blame for abuse squarely on me.
Although the vast majority of victims are female, some are male, too.
But whichever sex, the trauma can be the same, and very intense and damaging.
Women who have been with destructive men often rush into new relationships before they have had time to process what happened, and before they understand what to do differently.