Through my circle of friends and single moms I meet through this blog, I often hear cries of horror about the thought of single mom dating. What man in his right mind would date someone with so much baggage? Whether the single part was by way of divorce, breakup, death or choice, it was a big deal, and that changed you. I have lunches to make and doctor appointments to schedule. Busy single moms have fewer lonely nights to fill, fewer dinners eaten alone. My single-mom body is a wreck and I haven’t been on a date in 15 years! I am also far less critical of other people, including men. 3) You’ve faced the reason-defying triumphs that are required of single motherhood.Another’s girlfriend eventually broke up with him after several years because he rarely made time to spend alone with her, instead expecting constant family time with his son.Ultimately, failure to put their partner first was a sign these guys were not ready for a serious relationship, or at least not with those particular women, and that is totally normal.“Provide basic information to a child, depending on age and developmental stage.” And remember: They’re your kids, not your friends.
They’re quickly discovering what I did—dating with kids in tow is a whole different scenario.I remember saying to my mom that I didn’t know anyone else who was divorced, single parenting and dating.She looked right at me and laughed, “Give it 10 years, you’ll have lots of company.” She was right. Forgive the friends and in-laws who you felt deserted you.You survived that, and not only are you better for it – you’re sexier for it. Age and childbearing has allowed you to enjoy your body for all it has to offer. When I met my husband in my mid-twenties, I was still struggling to make my way professionally. When we do have time for boyfriends, we make the very most of it. There is less temptation to piddle away hours with losers just because you’re lonely.But in this moment when men are struggling to claim their place as equal parents while society expects divorced dads to be the lackadaisical weekend father, I get why you are compelled to go overboard with your expressed devotion. If you are indeed ready for a real love, create a space for her.