Now that I’m four years into professional matchmaking, I’ve seen clear patterns emerge when it comes to race and attraction. Women of every racial background seem to strongly prefer dating you.Asian and Latin women are most popular with the gents.
Women who state they only want to find a nice, kind, man say that they have no real physical preferences … According to Christian Rudder’s OKCupid blog, stats from 2014 show that 82 per cent of non-black men on OKCupid show some bias against black women.But I've never actually been on a dating app as myself, a black woman. Yes, online dating seems fun from where I'm standing, but I think doing it as a woman of color would damage my faith in humanity.Of course, women of all races have to deal with BS online. But women of color lack that extra race-based privilege, which can cause some mind-bogglingly stupid reactions from people in the online dating world."As a plus-size black woman attempting to find a suitable mate or at least a date, the results can be pretty sad," Christian S., 30, a Dallas, Texas-based fitness blogger and the creator of The Plush Cyclist, tells SELF.Black people are standing up and demanding to be seen, and to matter, in ways I have read about in history books, but have never experienced in my lifetime.Whether we are talking about #themovementforblacklives or #sayhername, as a community we are requiring that our full humanity not only be recognized, but that safe spaces be created for the expression of that full humanity—whether good, bad, or ugly.It’s like they can f*** us unapologetically but can’t stand up and speak out for us unapologetically. I’m sick of seeing my white friends with mixed babies ignoring the racist realities of this country that are plaguing the black community.