This is boring for Person B, because there’s no mystery.
Mystery, and not knowing whether or not the person you’re talking to is interested in you (at least for the first five minutes, or the first two or three emails), is a very good thing.
You’ve carefully chosen corroborating pictures that make you look socially well-adjusted and fun, and you (and your mother) consider yourself a solid catch. Basically, people want what they don’t know they have, or don’t have.
You’ve made a mistake so common; no one even knows there’s a better way. First, let’s look at what happens when someone hits on (i.e. For example, I once went up to this guy at a party and said the highly original and clever one-liner: “Hi.” Instead of responding in kind, he gave me the once over and said, “No.” While his brevity was admirable, his socially mal-adjusted response is an excellent example of what happens when Person A hits on Person B.
I was going to write about something else today -- I have a couple of big-concept posts I've been meaning to write up and get around to -- but, heck, the last post I put up was a big-concept post so I figured let's have a quick breather from that and get something a little lighter up first. I've been all too guilty of this myself -- sending super-long messages.
This topic came up as I got to an email from a reader. And what I found was that I was often disappointed -- I'd put all this time and effort into a monster of a message, and then... There are a bunch of lessons I eventually took away from those experiences that I'll share with you today.
If someone has taken the time to email you and ask questions, it’s important that you reply with the same care and consideration.
So your profile’s generated a bit of a buzz on the online dating scene; you’ve been winked at, sent an email or maybe someone’s initiated a conversation. While you might be feeling uncertain about how to respond, fear not.
I don't usually start off a post with the impact points right at the beginning.
But I want to lay these out first -- because they're so vital to solid message writing -- and we'll get into the "whys" and the "hows" in a moment.
In this article, we’ll show you fool-proof answers which are sure to get the ball rolling when it comes to dating.
If someone virtually winks at you, why not wink back?!
Whilst it’s important that your reply allows someone the chance to get to know more about you beyond what’s written in your profile, it’s also important to keep things short and sweet.